This is a good read and I agree that getting perspective is what is needed. However, I also feel that if you are caused any severe long term emotional pain, even if unintentional, you cannot always ‘work on it’ as you don’t always understand what you’re working on! So to my mind, forgiveness is the way to go. We must forgive ourselves and everyone else; this is the road to freedom and peace. We cannot keep making judgments about ourselves and whether what we have done is a mistake; we are humans after all and we were not made to be perfect. We also cannot push ourselves through our pain because it’s grossly inconvenient. We have to be kind and patient with ourselves and others and, over time, this helps us to evolve and change.