Enjoyed reading this with some very good points made. I would also add, that in reality, most people don’t speak ‘all the love languages’ as they don’t know how to, so at some point our needs are not going to be met. Also, I have found some people do seem to ‘tick all the boxes’ but even if they do and they ‘get you’, unfortunately this is no indication that the person is mutually attracted to you. In my experience, chemistry is something that you cannot buy, artificially create or control and, should you ever feel this with someone, it’s very difficult to deny or pretend otherwise. It can even be frightening in the wrong circumstances. So I am not sure that people ‘choose’ who they want to be with, they just KNOW who they can be true with, and that’s where all the excitement and torment begins …