A great read and these 3 rules are really helpful, if only you could get both people in a relationship to take action on them. When you have been in a very long relationship and you’re older, you may find that your partner will not take on board or hear anything serious you have to say about or to them, even if you say it in a nice way. Some people spend much of their time strongly defending themselves and they just wont admit that they screwed up or show they’re sorry about anything. They don’t care what hurts you or how you’re feeling, as long as they don’t get to ‘hear’ they had anything to do with it, they’re happy. That’s what selfish people are like. They want their spouse to just shut up, smile and pretend all is well. Why do people think it’s okay to be cold, neglectful and dismissive, yet they still expect their partner to respect, love and stay with them. This is probably why some marriages continue but one or both partners have certainly checked out …